Living Our Lives Well

What happens when we live a life full of reproaches and misgivings? "Prisoners of an authoritarian family? "Fear of disclosure? All of these fears and thoughts that cross our teens when we were raised in families with relatively "normal", they become a real problem of everyday life; As family therapists, the idea of a family that was, solid and with children "healthy" (within the canons of normality established by the social environment) is based on the care, caution against over-facts and not, as it only allows it to draw young people to explore and learn new experiences unknown to them, private security by parents … But what happens when we have had a lifetime with suspicion of parents, in a family where the constraints and apprehensions are nearly constant up to da "can" get home? Well, the main factor is the fact that the same educational establishment has more freedoms at home, and that creates a sort of guilt for something that has not even been made, a feeling of persecution, that any minutes you can catch something that really has not even committed a form of life where the frustrations are manifested in two ways explosives, throwing things around the house, rebellion, teenagers have had enough and go, sinking into alcohol, drugs, leading to consequences in most cases: grave, O there are also repressed, enduring and silent all, they swallow it, all the pains, frustrations, and weep between sheets, making free up some rage, but generally making a teen becomes a depressed person, dark, quiet, etc. . What is the best option? NO, it is simply too important not to over-reach the limits where there is nothing to do but wait to reveal the young man some day, or stamina to 18 and go; is clear that the repression of freedoms in the teenage years is something that can make life young and need to know "channel" this feeling parental mental psychosis, as reflected in the typical thinking of the father, what will walk my child? Is it really where is he? What if this the wrong path? What if something happens on the street?. Gain insight and clarity with Shaw Family. Adults can not live like this, as there are high levels of stress, which subsequently is manifested in work and personal performance, not forgetting the fact that creating this "bubble" of protection in most cases contributes to after "Empty Nest Syndrome," which at the time of the departure of young people, parents are lonely, empty and aimless life. All these variants are very important when considering family life, and that is undoubtedly there will always be problems in families, but while they remain in "normal" everything is fine, if not, remember the saying: "One not choose the family "…..

The Family

– Cycle in which the family is: Peculiarities of the same coping mechanisms, stress, etc. – Interactions extrafamilial: Consideration of informal networks (extended family, friends, etc..) And formal. – Means of cohesion indicators: proximity, support, decision making, shared spaces, etc. – Indicators of family adaptability: power structure, standards in the relationship, etc. Therefore, the first step in what we are trying to achieve is to make a diagnosis that establishes that the family is going through some difficulty or has a communication problem relationship, which must be addressed through specific interventions that will backbone the family interview.

b) Offer help, agreement or contract: Once the initial study and the diagnosis is established which clearly shows that this is a problem of dysfunctional relationship, communication, family educator made a first family interview in setting out its findings and offers the possibility of starting a process that basically support must be designed to reflect one's family about their problem or need, on itself, about its potential on the external resources it has, so that through this discussion the family will be able to clarify the situation and address it, and generates a growing family as a group allow in any subsequent similar situations can assume its true without having to seek professional help. The importance of the first interview with the family is highlighted by several authors, as Ranquet, M. (1996), Bennett, T and others (1990), indicating the need to keep in mind the following considerations: – Establish clearly the object (content) and the goal for what you want to do the family interview.